Is there a difference between being in a fight, attacking and defending ourselves?
Blog posts do not benefit from being overly long so this is a lead in to the main article.
We may not like to admit it to ourselves but everyone that takes up a Martial Art does it because at some level it is a response to fear, we keep it up because it appears to answer that doubt that makes us fearful, however it is still about fear.
The real work is finding out what we we are afraid of? Finding out if we can we ever truly resolve this issue?
Thinking that we can do one thing, such as overcome fear, by practising something else, such as a Martial Art has us sliding in the direction of self delusion.
Fear happens at a level of our being that is incredibly difficult to deal with, it is not in any way a physical thing so how can it possibly have a physical solution?
What are we afraid of?
The future? The unknown?
I doubt if any of us know, we may think that it is getting into a situation that we cannot get out of in one piece, hence the Martial Arts training.
This idea is deeply rooted in the thought / hope that as a trained human whatever happens we can handle it, the fear issues arises from the self doubt that surrounds that claim.
We must get our head on straight.
What is a Fight? What is an Attack, what is Self Defence? They are not synonymous.
To answer a question first we must be clear about the question.
Martial Arts do not teach us to fight, they teach us how to do that particular Martial Art.
In the wider M.A. community there is a distinct difference between Sports Fighting and Traditional Martial Arts, and that is that Sports Fighters fight, Traditional Martial Artists defend.
As it stands this is reality, even if we do not wish it to be our reality.
Many people’s Ego’s prevent them from seeing this, and by extension accepting it, working with it and becoming a proficient Martial Artist because of it.
When students first come to my school I ask them “Can you fight”?
Usually they say no, that’s why I am here.
Everyone can fight, but not everyone can fight well, M.A. training is about improving what you can already do, taking it to a higher level, we can never learn something we do not already know, at least to some degree, without some sort of prior knowledge we would have no where to start.
But we can all fight.
At some time or another we have all thrown Teddy from the pram, swatted a fly or stamped on an ant, we instinctively know how to be violent.
All training is tapping into and expanding this, if we think it is for anything else except violence why would we choose to use it if we get into a violent situation?
Surely we would choose something that we relate to violence such as throwing Teddy from the pram, swatting a fly or stamping on an ant,
Time: the Future, or the Past, is horizontal, “Now” is vertical, where they intersect is where we are, always. Where we think the danger lives is always down the line, what ever it is we fear it is not happening right here right now, but we think it may be coming, so we prepare.
If something does happen it will no longer be down the line, it will be here and Now, preparing for or fearing something that may happen in the future is not learning how to deal with Now.
Everything happens Now.
To be in the Now we must know what is happening, if we are fighting, attacking or defending, leaving that decision to hope and random guesswork is not a recipe´ for success.